Okay! So todays post is about the overused word "Okay"
Yes, its very true. I am finding it really tough even typing this without using the the word :)
When we tell children what we want them to do, and then add an "Okay?" at then end, what are we intending? Well, in my case I think I intend to end the sentence and expect my child to obey me. But does it work? No! in most cases it doesnt. The reason is simple. When we end a sentence with a question mark tone and an "okay" we are seeking permission from the child and giving him a chance to negotiate. When the child negotiates, we get furious. We think we've been really clear about what he was required to do.
So from today onwards or maybe the next minute onwards, I pledge to stop using an "Okay?" after an instruction I want my child to follow without negotiation. Okay? :)
Yes, its very true. I am finding it really tough even typing this without using the the word :)
When we tell children what we want them to do, and then add an "Okay?" at then end, what are we intending? Well, in my case I think I intend to end the sentence and expect my child to obey me. But does it work? No! in most cases it doesnt. The reason is simple. When we end a sentence with a question mark tone and an "okay" we are seeking permission from the child and giving him a chance to negotiate. When the child negotiates, we get furious. We think we've been really clear about what he was required to do.
So from today onwards or maybe the next minute onwards, I pledge to stop using an "Okay?" after an instruction I want my child to follow without negotiation. Okay? :)
